We’ve all had that bully in school who called you names, made fun of you, harassed you daily with their group of friends, and spread rumors about you. When I graduated high school I thought that would be the end of being bullied; that is not the case. Even in our professional lives we all have that person who constantly complains about you to your supervisor as a form of harassment. You’d think people would grow out of it, but I have realized that they are just unhappy with their lives and who they are.
Once I found out what makes a toxic person tick, it i extremely easy to continue living my life without having their poison disrupt my life. Let’s get down to it.
The Profile of a Toxic Person
I truly understand the difficulty in combating negative comments. Most of us are concerned what other people think of us, therefore when we receive a comment, we tend to take it seriously. In order to combat the negativity of others, it helps to understand why people dump their negativity onto others.
When people are negative toward you, remember that it is a reflection of themselves. They are unhappy with themselves, and they are unhappy in their life. Remember, the things they are saying to you is how they see themselves. They attack others, making other people feel insignificant so they can feel more significant. Negative people are also insecure with who they are, and they are afraid.
Toxic people push their ‘garbage’ onto others in many forms; gossiping, posting on your social media profiles, and even destroying friendships you have with others. Destroying the friendships you have with others is important to them because they need the ‘followers’ in order to make themselves feel like they are in the right. They also want you to feel isolated in order for you to feel like what they are saying is true. Those ‘friends’ who follow are not worth being in your life. They are just as toxic as the person starting the problems. Plus, you don’t want followers in your life. Remember, followers will follow anybody, and it shows you that they are weak as well as toxic. Dump them all.
Negative Comments on Social Media – Cyber Bullying
I have received quite a few negative comments on my Instagram and even on my blog. Those negative comments have included name calling, attempting to degrade me as a person, attempting to make me feel horrible about myself, and even attempting to discourage me from keeping this blog, and from running. All of the negative comments I have received have all been online. Yes, online. Nobody has ever said anything to my face. Some of these are people I have never met in real life, and others I have known in real life, mainly from some of the run clubs.
Here are some helpful things that help me deal with the negative comments online:
- Do not argue. It’s not worth it to fight them. Remember, they are insecure, they are unhappy in their life, and they feel insignificant. This also holds true for people who spill their hatred all over the internet.
- Turn your back to negativity and do a small gesture. That could mean holding the door open for someone, engaging in simple conversation with someone, even encouraging a stranger to keep pushing forward. Kindness goes a long way, it’s good for your soul, and it sets you up mentally into a positive frame of mind.
- Never lower yourself down to their level. It’s never worth it, plus don’t give them what they want.
- If an individual posts daily, close comments on your social media. This will prevent everyone from commenting on your posts.
- This is a last resort. If your comments section is disabled and that person resorts to sending you private messages, the FBI has an online report filing where you can file a complaint against the individual who keeps harassing you with their comments. I have used this, and moved the obscene comments to my spam so the comments are still there. When people leave a comment on your social media they are leaving data that can be traced back to them. That is why I never delete the comments. Being called offensive names, and having comments that purposely embarrass you is considered cyber bullying. No one deserves that.
Negative comments should never, never be taken seriously. It’s not you, it’s them. You are so much better than them, especially when you take the high road. These are people whom do not deserve to be in your life. Remove them from your life, including deleting them from all your social media outlets.
Do not let their garbage stink up, and poison your life. Its not worth it. Its easier for them to continue to be they way the are instead of fixing their lives for the better. You do you, and remember, these haters are your biggest fans. They are jealous of you, your accomplishments, and that you are successful in your life. It shows you are doing everything right.